Children do not instantly absorb a situation or respond automatically as adults do. They take a little longer to digest an experience and process it. A child might be just beginning to put together what has happened, when suddenly she is enveloped in enormous pressure emanating from her mom or dad. “Tell the boy you’re sorry,” they say in a tone that makes the girl most uncomfortable. She wants to please, but forcing the words would feel completely false, and faking emotion does not come naturally to a child.
Over the years I have heard many of these forced apologies. I understand the parent’s need for them, but I have to admit they always make me squirm. To truly apologize requires empathy, and empathy develops in its own way and time, at a different pace for each child. So, often the child is not developmentally ready to understand, much less own the words she’s saying...
Our Group Leaders start every Hui session with a Moment of Empathy. As parents and caregivers, this is how we teach peace to our keiki. Be kind to yourself this holiday season and spread peace.Wonderful day on Saturday with many peace builders from Hawaii. Much was discovered and learned. We thank each one of you. Move your action plans for peace forward and stay in touch with us! #Ceedsofpeace ... See MoreSee Less
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